Etiquette education simply not just child’s play
Gaston de ROSAYRO
For educators the task of instilling character development in their
students is not just child’s play. It is not on the curriculum of any
school but should be a subject that is as crucially important as
mathematical and literate skills.
Teachers certainly have a imperative role in shaping their students’
future. Etiquette lessons help children learn the difference between
right and wrong, by helping them to focus on their actions. Besides it
teaches them how to interact with others. In today’s schooling system,
there is a strong focus on the three R’s, - ‘Reading, Riting and
Rithmatic’ - but mentors must consider tagging on an E to the curriculum
- Etiquette.
Making intelligent choices
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Teaching children to make intelligent choices will help them to
become considerate individuals who will be admired for their character
and ethical behaviour. Clear and proper thinking will greatly help
reduce future problems they may develop or encounter.
Still teaching such a subject entails a delicate balancing act and
all the more reason for school authorities to provide encouragement and
guidance to teachers.
The value of teaching character education from an early age cannot
ever be overlooked. The objective of character education is to fashion
and nurture emotionally balanced, socially empathetic and caring
individuals with a solid system of values. Its goal is to eventually
raise mindful adults with socially acceptable ethics who are capable of
steering a course through the challenges of life without compromising
their principles.
Anti-social behaviour
Unfortunately today’s culture sets the focus on self-destructive and
all too often sociopathic role-models. Just take a look at our
newspapers or turn on the TV and you will observe the escalating
violence in our schools and universities. This type of anti-social
behaviour from the future generations of our nation is a threatening
reminder that the very fabric of our social fabric is in danger of being
torn asunder.
Despite of all the benefits that teaching character education offers
to both the individual and society, there is no sure fire formula or set
standards on how and what to teach. While no general programme that is
suitable for all students exists, an established structure for
successful character education should follow certain methods and common
principles.
And If not handled carefully it can become a problem for both the
pedagogues and their charges. As children grow older, they figure out
messages in their own way. Lessons fitting to character development
stages allow children to make their own choices while bolstering
positive group activities.
Good role models
When character education blends both individualistic and collective
play it encourages youngsters to apply their own perceptions and flair
in most situations while also serving as good role models to their
younger peers.
While children are in school, open forums with active role-playing
can provide practical tools to students for handling difficult moments
and peer pressure. Moderated by teachers or, in later years, by the
students themselves, the sharing among classmates is certain to
encourage moral thought, ethical debate, decision-making, and crucial
thinking.
The subject should be devoid of moralising or indoctrination of any
one type of thought or behaviour as being the right one for all. In its
place, common principles based on shared values such as justice,
equality for all, respect for individuality, empathy, kindness and
integrity should serve as the elementary building blocks of all
character education programmes.
Baby boomers of my vintage or thereabouts would be able to cite
details from those days at school touching upon the teachers, their
influence on the pupils and their idiosyncrasies. To be sure, many of
those experiences as budding scholars could be best summed up in
personal vein as a bitter-sweet mélange. For instance we can all extract
certain sketches of a painful past in which the cane held sway as the
order of the day.
No one who has been a schoolboy could ever stand up and say he never
encountered at least one teacher who the entire school was terrified of.
There were many who appeared to take a vicarious delight in flogging
their students pitilessly. The more fractious among us still have
nightmares as the echoes of those vicious thwacking sounds swirl through
our heads.
Minor disobedience
In my time a good many of them appeared to be more lashers than
teachers. Some of them seemed to take a sadistic pleasure in thrashing
their pupils in turn, one after the other for the most trifling
infringements. Surely for some students in those class rooms every
school day seemed torture. Besides they hardly used corporal punishment
as a last resort, it was always the first resort for minor disobedience.
No. There was certainly not much margin for error in that time and
place and corporal punishment even for the slightest infraction was the
norm. British-style formal caning was fully lawful in Ceylon schools
then and strongly supported by the government. Most of the country’s
secondary schools used the cane, which was a significant element in the
disciplinary system. But such punishment rarely fitted the crime, so to
say, and provided a free rein for appalling abuse by many tyrannical
pedagogues.
While there is no official certification required of etiquette
teachers, you could become a credible authority on the subject if you
start building your etiquette-related knowledge by reading books on the
subject to improve your understanding of the topic. But remember
teaching is more commonsense that is honed by the right refinement.
However there are books on the subject you can read and learn from.
Emotional intelligence
Indeed every teacher should practice proper etiquette to prove their
correctness as gurus. As an etiquette teacher, you should embody proper
social practices.
Particularly when establishing yourself in the industry, practicing
what you preach is necessary.
Recent psychological studies have shown that emotional intelligence (EI)
is as significant to a child’s success and fulfilment as good grades and
an university degree. Etiquette seeks to enhance the EI of children by
encouraging them to express and discuss their emotions, thereby
improving their social sensitivity and public behaviour.
Along with increased self-confidence and the ability to relate to
others, students of etiquette develop enhanced social skills and
experience far less anxiety when handling peer pressure.
The potential for school violence can also be reduced by practicing
the responsible behaviour stressed in etiquette education.
The US studies have shown that the effects of etiquette and character
training are immediate and long lasting. For parents, educators and
especially our children, etiquette education and character development
pay big dividends that last a lifetime, making the E for etiquette
result in children who will represent another E -Extraordinary.
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