It pays to be polite and costs nothing
Gaston de Rosayro
We appear to have lost a good deal of our ideals during a bloody
three decade secessionist war. Those intrinsic social values are unique
as far as most Asian cultures go. But the most striking aspect of Sri
Lankan life is that the majority of its people have not lost their
cultural identity.
Sri Lankan civility appears to have returned with the end of the
prolonged conflict. And it is a prime opportunity for the youth of this
nation to keep it alive and kicking. Being a polite and courteous person
makes one a rare individual in today's world.
Politeness, and a genuine concern for the rights and feelings of
others in our society seems to have slammed the door in our faces. A
culture of rudeness has become a feature of modern society. Whether it
is a loud cell-phone conversation, line cutting or terrible customer
service by staff people, finding politeness in the world is on the
decline.
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You can very easily find people who view politeness and good manners
as weakness and as character flaws to be overcome. They argue that
rudeness succeeds and common courtesy is a mark of failure. They view
rudeness to others as a sign of their superiority as people, and a badge
of their status. They couldn't be more wrong. Politeness and common
courtesy are more likely to achieve success, in business and in life,
than a selfish, bullying attitude.
Whether in your personal relationships with others, or in your
workplace, being polite and well-mannered pays off in many ways. In your
personal life, remembering special days, holding doors and displaying
good manners in general shows respect for the other person. That respect
will almost always be reciprocated by the other person.
Anyone who does not recognise good manners and polite behaviour may
not be worth your time anyway. Becoming known as a polite and
well-mannered individual does not mean that you are some sort of
pushover or doormat. Instead, you are displaying respect for yourself
and those people with whom you interact on a daily basis.
In business, politeness and good manners will enhance and strengthen
your entire organisation. Staff, customers, vendors and anyone doing
business with your company will appreciate your courtesy. Instead of
missing appointments, failing to live up to your promises and
obligation, and engaging in generally rude behaviour, you show respect
for the other person and their time. In a very real sense, good customer
service is all about good manners and politeness, and really listening
to what people have to say about your products and services. The
feedback provided will not only prevent client defection in the here and
now, but could also improve current products or help develop new ones.
Word of your genuine concern, for treating others fairly and with
respect, will improve your company's public image dramatically.
Customers and clients will refer your business to their friends and
family, resulting in even more personal referrals. Good old fashioned
word of mouth advertising, through testimonials from satisfied customers
is a powerful marketing tool. Everyone wants to be treated with respect,
and in the modern decline of manners, your business politeness will
shine like a beacon in the darkness.
Contrary to the criticism that good manners are a display of
weakness, polite and respectful actions are a sign of self confidence.
They are also recognition that everyone deserves to be treated with
dignity. Instead of taking their money and running, missing their
appointments, or barging past them in queues, you are showing you value
their time and rights, as well your own.
Many companies have become crusaders of this message. What you show
is what you will reap. If you want people to have respect for you, you
must show respect. Respect for individual in business will always have a
positive impact on you. Learn to treat people well and you will be
surprised at the result you will get.
In a world where good manners are in steep decline, your polite
actions will help you to stand out. You definitely won't be seen as a
doormat.
There is a huge difference between providing service and being
subservient. Service implies an equal respect for yourself and others.
Being subservient is based on a lack of self respect, and has nothing
to do with being polite. But as you sit in your office reading you might
be bombarded with the louder-then-necessary voices of colleagues and the
slamming of office and cabinet doors. Many of us might spend more than
just a few minutes each day wondering why our society has become so
uncivil and rude. I believe there needs to be more action taken against
the impolite. It is not enough to just talk about it. Children must be
taught civility at home and in school. We must make an effort to educate
the adults who maintain this disgusting behaviour.
The next time you hold a door open for someone and they do not thank
you simply tell them a 'thank you' is warranted. I am writing this
article in an office of a University in Hong Kong where I am conducting
a course in advanced journalism When I end this comment, I will walk out
into the lecture room next door and ask my neighbours to please keep
their voices down. Indeed it becomes a sad day when we have to remind
our adult neighbours to be courteous.
Now here is another perfectly good reason why you should have good
manners: According to the BBC, a 60-something Filipino American visiting
the Philippines won the largest lottery prize ever there. He hit the
jackpot of 750 million pesos or about US$17 million. According to the
winner, a woman pushed him out of the way to buy her lottery tickets and
he let her go ahead. Given that lottery tickets in the Philippines are
sold consecutively, if she had waited her turn, she would have ended up
with the winning ticket. Instead, because of his politeness, he won
instead.
Show your respect for yourself and others. Display your good manners
today. It always pays rich dividends.
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