Would you be willing to let a few memories go?
A
few weeks ago, my friend Renton de Alwis made a request. Books. He had
devised a modest but potentially path-breaking scheme to give children
in Kiula, Hungama, the reading habit. He had found that the issue is not
one of there not being enough books (schools have libraries, as do
temples, and most towns have public libraries), but that children (and
indeed adults as well) are so entrapped in the diurnal of ‘learning’ (or
‘earning’) that they just didn’t have the time to visit such a facility,
browse and borrow. Well, not that there is not enough time but a lack of
incentive.
Renton’s plan was simple. Get the books to the child. His logic is
that if children are inflicted by the reading bug, there’s no turning
back. It’s a books-on-wheels project. Three-wheels actually. The mobile
library goes around the village and children can pick and choose and
borrow. They can return the books two weeks later. Turns out, most are
done with the books they borrowed within a week. Sounds promising.
Anyway, a few weeks ago, i.e. before the initiative was launched,
Renton explained the concept to me and said he needed books for the
library. He called me again yesterday (June 19, 2010) and said that he
needs some children’s books. My daughters are nine and six.
They
don’t have many toys, but they have books. I asked them if there were
any books they were willing to give away. I told them to go through the
book shelves and pick out some we could give these children.
I went to see how they were doing. Disappointing. Just two or three
books. I pointed to some books and asked if they had read them. ‘Yes,’
they answered. ‘Are you planning to read them again?’ I asked. The
answer was vague and inaudible. I think it fell between ‘yes’ and ‘no’.
I spoke of ‘privilege’. About the virtue of sharing. Wrong word. The
older girl caught it and ran: ‘Yes, so sharing is giving and then
returning’. I couldn’t help smiling. She knew that I knew that she had
picked on an error. She therefore gave me the truth: ‘They are my
memories.’ One does not argue with memories. Remembering is not a bad
thing. It is good to cherish.
I tried it another way. Spoke about the difference it could make in
the lives of people they had never met. I explained that the books on a
single shelf would be like a treasure trove for some children. She
contemplated.
The younger one, generally bored with any debate that exceeded three
minutes, started picking out books she ‘owned’, i.e. those gifted to
her. Ladybird books. Janaki Sooriyarachchi’s books. I picked up one
myself: ‘The Good King Sivi’. ‘No, we can’t give that one Appachchi,
because you need it!’ It was a ‘gift’ she had once given me, so that I
will remember her. She is not a reader. Not yet, at any rate. There were
many she hadn’t touched. The sister knew this and reminded her.
I left them to their own devices. They put together quite a pile.
Memories notwithstanding.
Charity is the privilege of the able. This I know. The able can also
look the other way. They can say ‘not my business’ or ‘another time,
perhaps’. They can even use the charming dismissive, ‘my memories’.
Contact information and say ‘please send’ or ‘contact him and he will
tell you how he could collect the books’. Renton had a better idea it
would be better if many people started similar projects in areas where
such initiatives are sorely needed’.
It doesn’t have to be books. It could be anything. There are so many
‘throwaways’ that can be saved, solicited from friends, collected and
given to someone or some community that needs them more.
I remember a TV advertisement urging consumers to conserve energy.
The message was quite simple: ‘turn off one light right now that you
don’t really need’. Something like that.
I think if we looked around us, we will find at least one thing that
we really don’t need and which we could give away. There are always
things that are memory-laden, and those that are memory-laden, but there
will be others that are memory-free. Even among those ‘memoried’
articles there will be some that can be given away.
At least one thing. My nine year old daughter struggled, visibly, to
deal with memory-loss. I did not push her hard. She was smiling and full
of enthusiasm when she gave those books to Renton.
I am not sure what she’ll remember and what she would forget of her
childhood, years from now. I think she would be a citizen who
understands things like community, collective, solidarity, generosity
and kindness.
Maybe some day I will have the chance to tell her a story about
memories, memory-loss, and memory-sacrifice. There’ll be a child she may
never meet, a child who lives in Kiula, Hungama. I have already said
‘thank you’ to that child, on her behalf. Someday, hopefully, she will
have opportunity to say it too.
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