It’s really the height of cheek!
Gaston de Rosayro
Remember all of you that love is one of the things that make the
world go round. Another is too much liquor. But no one with the fine
sense of decency of a wild boar would compare love with liquor.
If such there be, as the poet said, then make a quick shift to a
metaphorical gear change by to labelling them ‘vile bores’! Usually when
searching for a soul mate, people often seek someone with similar
tastes, values and interests as their own. If you look at the couples
around you, you find that most men are taller than their women. This
isn’t just a coincidence, nor is it as simple as taller being better,
although research does show some preference for taller men.
What is interesting is how some women use height, just as they might
use hair colour, in gauging their attraction to a potential mate. Most
women will end up with a partner taller than themselves, as men are on
average the taller sex. The way that tallness is rewarded by society in
general goes some way to explaining why some women prefer tall men, as
they may be perceived as more powerful and even more attractive.
Women may also feel protected and more feminine by a partner taller
than themselves. To back this idea up, women who have more ‘traditional’
views on their role in society have been shown to be less inclined to
date shorter men. Fair enough, but if the female preference for taller
men is so strong, then why aren’t more women setting their eyes on
gangly basketball players.
The average heighted and shorter men would surmise then that in fact
taller does not mean better in any endeavour with the exception of
basketball. Other factors play as part as well. For one thing, it’s been
shown the woman’s own height plays a part requiring the man to be at
least as tall as her. The same goes for girth, looks, personality and
certainly intellect.
If you’re a shorter gentleman you might be reading this with a heavy
heart. But remember that in choosing a partner based on their height, a
woman’s own height, attractiveness and relationship expectations come
into consideration. Height isn’t everything, by a long chalk, especially
when we are talking about long term relationships. Studies reveal that
women value intelligence, personality and career over physical
appearance when looking for a serious relationship.
But if you’re looking for long-term compatibility and lasting,
passionate love, choosing your twin as a mate might not be your best
bet. In fact, it is sometimes the couples who are ‘mismatched’ in some
areas that make the best mates. What I am trying to say is that it
frequently happens that a woman is attracted by someone totally opposite
in type.
When searching for a soul mate, people often seek someone with
similar tastes, values and interests as their own. How often do you see
a statuesque woman lining up at the altar with a midget-sized man who
looks like a mascot leprechaun? Or a sprat of a man with a woman of
Amazonian proportions, reminding one of a mahout accompanying an
elephant?
Still you can’t stereotype short men, tall ones or the average
heighted individuals. Nor would it be fair to judge the ‘slobby’ ones,
the skinny scarecrows, the bandy-legged or the grotesque lookers.
Personality size, however, is another matter.
In short, it is shallow to judge a man by his stature, but lots of
people who are short of sensitivity simply cannot help it. But as my
affectionate childhood friend Malka says: “There is a special
youthfulness about short men. Most retain their boyish looks well beyond
manhood. The ageing back problems that plague their taller brothers
aren’t as common among short men. Gravity is kinder to them.”
Malka who I mentioned in one of my earlier columns is no ordinary
person. She was always hanging around with the boys and was an
outstanding marble player even when she was in her rompers. With
outstanding ingenuity and faultless aim she plundered our precious
collection of multi-hued glass balls. So both figuratively and literally
we lost all our marbles to Malka who we aptly dubbed as the ‘Attagirl at
Attabola.’
Malka even in those formative years was attracted to boys her own
height or shorter. It seemed perfectly reasonable to her, because there
are all kinds of equally superficial reasons to be turned on or off by
someone. Measuring a man’s attractiveness in vertical inches may be
superficial, but at least it is a feature that lasts a lifetime.
Well, Malka was never small-minded or short-sighted in any way. She
was not what you would call a long-legged filly, not by a long shot. But
rather I would call her dynamically petite. Yet, she always took a giant
threatening step towards anyone who attempted to short-change short
people, particularly those that did not break the five foot mark.
Bullying of short people invariably left her short-tempered. And even
the most incorrigible bully boys were afraid to tangle with a wildcat.
Why? Because in short, taller bullies were aware that harassment of
their shorter peers would be nearly always be shorthand for a shortened
life span when Malka was around. But the long and short of it, I’m
afraid, is that both in the short and long term she believed that
excessively tall males were rather insecure.
Malka propounded her premise that many of her friends often had bad
experiences with men who are towering infernos. She said: “I have always
wondered about women who want their men to be a head taller than they
are. Perhaps they are uncomfortable about looking their guy in the eye?
Or do they just believe that a man doesn’t listen anyway, so why not
talk to his chest?”
It came as no surprise then when Malka married our childhood playmate
Sonny, to who being short has been no impediment to financial success.
It seemed a perfect match. It presented no logistical problem either
because Malka herself is just about five feet tall. Malka claimed that
they dovetailed perfectly as a couple. She once revealed that Sonny in
his youth danced with a six foot four inch Amazonian and his head
reached only up to her bosom. Sonny blushed as she quipped with a
teasing giggle: “Imagine! He wasn’t dancing exactly cheek to cheek!”
Anyway, that’s enough tall talk from me for now. I’ll be back,
though. Shortly, of course!
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