Amalshan Gunerathne - Pictures by Nissanka
Wijerathna
“The entire concept of ‘love’ has become
twisted. The most are in love with the future-self of their partner.
They are in love with a person or a situation which hasn’t quite
happened yet. And in the process, they fail to cherish the present. And
it is not real love. Pure romantic thoughts of a person are often
ridiculed, and a purely romantic individual in the modern society is
considered as a ‘social deviant”
Pictures by Nissanka Wijerathna |
Is everlasting ‘love’ a thing of the past- a notion that is buried
deep within the antiquated lockers of Elizabethan times? What of the
‘Romeos and Juliets’ who would die for each other in the name of love?
Such ‘lovers’ exists no more; the society would have you believe. ‘Romeo
and Juliet’ have become immature and juvenile figures in literature. In
a world where everything is driven by man’s lust for power and wealth,
the concept of ‘pure love’ has become twisted and corrupted.
As expressed by an Arts Faculty student, Shilamega Velithudagey, “The
entire concept of ‘love’ has become twisted. ‘Love’ is nothing more than
a business transaction these days. The most are in love with the
future-self of their partner. They are in love with a person or a
situation which has not quite happened yet. And in the process, they
fail to cherish the present. It is not real love. Pure romantic thoughts
of a person are often ridiculed, and a purely romantic individual in the
modern society is considered as a social ‘deviant’.”
‘A Modern Romeo’ - Perhaps not
With this regard, the recent tragedy of Sri Lankan Medical College
student, who poisoned his girlfriend and committed suicide, comes to
mind. There we have it; the lover poisons his beloved and commits
suicide, the ultimate modern day tragedy, you would think. On the face
of it, the incident makes him appear as if he is the ultimate modern day
‘Romeo.’But as the verdict would say, he is not quite so. As recorded
and revealed in newspapers and gossip columns, the lover, ‘Chaturanga
Amila Kumara’ was suffering from a psychological disability, and it was
his disability which lead to the eventual crime.
But the question remains as to whether we should leave the incident
as it is, saying it was just another crime committed by a wild
psychopath or should we dig deeper and examine the social influences
that drive individuals to take such extreme actions.
It is always easier to condemn the criminal- in this case the
undergraduate who poisoned his girlfriend. He is a ‘psychopath’, the
media and his own parents have already given their judgment. However, in
most criminal cases, what many fail to realise is that sometimes the
murderer is as a victim as the very person that he kills. That he is a
victim of the socio-political issues that drives him into madness and
transforms him into a murderer.
While this is not meant to justify Amila Chaturanga’s actions, but
just to highlight the fact that when crime happens, we often focus on
ridiculing the criminal, instead of concentrating on issues that
transform a person into a criminal.
The truth remains that if we feel strongly about certain things, most
of us at some point or other in our lives, must have felt the need to
kill or kill ourselves. For most ridiculous reasons, you may at least
exercised thoughts of suicide. But does that make us mad? The fact is
that you do not necessary have to be diagnosed as a mentally disabled to
exercise desperate ‘thoughts’ such as suicide or even murder. Which
provides the implication that perhaps the only difference between ‘Amila
Chaturanga’ and the rest being, he put his thoughts into practice where
as we did not.
The University relationships
In a society where the entire concept of ‘love’ has become twisted,
it is no wonder that such incidents happen. Also the fact that the crime
was committed by a university student, and since such extreme incidents
are known to happen around university and college atmosphere begs the
question as to, ‘how come such educated section of the youth, degrade
themselves to that level?’ One could counter argue that intellect does
not pay a role when it comes to matters at heart and that it is easier
to let your emotions overpower reason. But that itself should not be an
excuse.
When questioned, an Arts Faculty student had this to say with this
regard. “The murder and rape incidents happen everywhere, but people
consider those as just routine incidents, but when something happens
within university premises, the media and everyone get all hyped up and
create a scene. It is unfair to consider university students as some
special segment of people. The university education doesn’t create
complete, ideal individuals. People have this notion that university
students are super-intelligent creatures. But they are normal human
beings like any other.”
University life- tasteless without love?
As for the university relationship issues- a preconceived notion
still exist that university life is tasteless, mundane and boring
without romance, which begs the obvious question, whether you come to
university to ‘experience love’ or to educate yourself for a better
future? As expressed and experienced by most youth, being absorbed in
wild romance turns everything else into secondary. Contradictorily
however, Viraj, a law faculty student noted, “It is not practical say
‘no’ to romance and demand students to focus only on studies. Romantic
relationships are an integral part of the university subculture. If the
relationship works out, it could do wonders for the individual. A
healthy relationship could motivate and encourage an individual to excel
in his studies. It is when you are mixed up in a bad relationship that
things could sour.”
The Modern Love- A Fake and twisted concept
However, not many are fortunate enough to experience such genuine
relationships. Most hold the skeptical view that relationships are not
genuine, and university relationships are no different. It could also be
argued that it is the university subculture that creates most issues.
The university provides freedom for both sexes to mingle with each
other, the kind of freedom which they can’t experience in society. Also
as expressed by another student, “Most relationships that happen within
university premises are temporary. Often they start affairs just for the
fun of it. Or else guys often keep a girl just so that they can get
notes from the girl.
Very rarely that you can experience a genuine affair. And there are
also cases where students lose track of their studies, once they are
smitten by love which in itself is a great tragedy.” |