The diplomatic art of managing your boss
Gaston de ROSAYRO
An important but most disregarded aspect of leadership and diplomacy
is your relationship with the boss, who could determine your success or
failure as a leader. Effective managers take time and effort to manage
not only their relationships with their subordinates but also those with
their bosses. Managing your team as a leader is as important as managing
your boss.
But really, managing your boss? Isn’t that merely manipulation?
Corporate cosying up? Out-and-out apple polishing? Not really! In fact,
we manage our bosses for very good reasons. Mainly to get resources to
do the best job, not only for ourselves, but for our bosses and our
companies as well.
Gaining self awareness |
Managers and supervisors often don’t realise how much their bosses
depend on them. They need co-operation, reliability, and honesty from
their direct reports. Many managers also don’t realise how much they
depend on their bosses, for links to the rest of the organisation, for
setting priorities, and for obtaining critical resources.
Recognising this mutual dependence, effective managers seek out
information about the boss’s concerns and are sensitive to his or her
work style. They also understand how their own attitudes toward
authority can sabotage the relationship. Some see the boss as the enemy
and fight him at every turn. Others are overly compliant, viewing the
boss as an all-wise parent.
A face to face discussion |
We must actively pursue a healthy and productive working relationship
based on mutual respect and understanding, understanding our own and our
bosses’ strengths, weaknesses, goals, work styles, and needs. Mainly you
have to have a good understanding of the other person and yourself
especially regarding strengths, weaknesses, work styles and needs.
This information is used to develop and manage a healthy working
relationship - one that is compatible with both people’s work styles and
assets, is characterised by mutual expectations and meets the most
critical needs of the person. This combination is essentially what
highly effective managers are found doing.
Managing the boss requires that you gain an understanding of the boss
and his or her own context, as well as your own situation. At a minimum
you need to appreciate your boss’s goals and pressures as well as his or
her strengths and weaknesses. Such as what are the boss’s organisational
and personal goals and objectives? What are the pressures? What are your
boss’s long suits and blind spots? What is his or her preferred style of
working? Does she or he like to get information through memos, formal
meetings or phone calls? Does she or he thrive on conflict or try to
minimise it?
Without this information, a manager is flying blind when dealing with
the boss and unnecessary conflicts, misunderstandings and problems are
inevitable. The boss is only one half of the relationship. You are the
other half, as well as the part you have more direct control over.
Developing an effective working relationship requires that you know your
own strengths, weaknesses and personal style.
Developing an effective working relationship |
One cannot change the basic personality of oneself or one’s boss. But
one can become more aware of what it is about you that impedes or
facilitates working with your boss and take action to be more effective.
Gaining self-awareness about oneself and acting on it are difficult
but not impossible, but this could be managed by reflecting on past
experiences. Although a superior subordinate relationship is one of
mutual dependence, it is also one in which the subordinate is typically
more dependent on the boss than the other way round.
Some people behave as if their bosses are not very dependent on them.
They fail to see how much the boss needs their help and cooperation to
do his/her job effectively. These people refuse to acknowledge that the
boss can be severely hurt by their actions and needs co-operation,
dependability and honestly from them.
A manager’s immediate boss can play a critical role in linking the
manager to the rest of the organisation, making sure that the manager’s
priorities are consistent with organisational needs and in securing the
resources the managers needs to perform well. Yet some managers see
themselves as self sufficient, not needing the critical information and
resources the boss can supply. Creating a compatible relationship also
involves drawing on each other’s strengths and making up for each
other’s weaknesses.
The subordinate who passively assumes that she or he knows what the
boss expects is in for trouble. Some superiors spell out their
expectations very explicitly but most do not. And though many
organisations have systems that provide a basis for communicating
expectations these systems never work perfectly.
Also between these formal reviews expectations invariably change.
Ultimately the burden falls on the subordinate to find out what the
boss’s expectations are. They can be both broad such as what problems
the boss wishes to be briefed about and when, as well as very specific
when a particular project should be completed and what kind of
information the boss needs in the interim.
If a boss is vague and not explicit it maybe difficult to get
information out of him but effective managers find ways to do that. Some
managers will draft a detailed memo and follow up with a face-to-face
discussion. Others will deal with an inexplicit boss by initiating an
ongoing series of informal discussions about ‘good management’ and ‘our
objectives.’Still others find useful information more indirectly through
those who used to work for the boss and through formal planning systems
in which the boss makes commitments to his or her own superior. Which
approach you choose would depend on your understanding of your boss’s
style.
Few things are more disabling to a boss than a subordinate on whom he
cannot depend, whose work he cannot trust. No one is intentionally
undependable. A commitment to an optimistic delivery date may please a
superior in the short term but become a source of displeasure if not
honoured. It’s difficult for a boss to rely on a subordinate who
frequently misses deadlines.
Dishonestly is another issue. It is almost impossible for bosses to
work effectively if they cannot rely on a fairly accurate reading from
their subordinates. Because it undermines credibility, dishonestly is
perhaps the most troubling trait a subordinate can have. Without a basic
level of trust a boss feels compelled to check all of a subordinate’s
decisions, which makes it difficult to delegate.
The boss has limited time, energy and influence. Every request a
subordinate makes uses some of these resources so it’s wise to draw on
these resources selectively. Many managers use up their boss’s time over
relatively trivial issues.
No doubt some subordinates will resent that on top of all their other
duties they also need to take time and energy to manage their
relationships with their bosses. Such managers fail to realise the
importance of this activity and how it can simplify their jobs by
eliminating severe problems. Effective managers recognise that this part
of their work is legitimate and know the need to establish and manage
relationships with everyone on whom they can depend including their
boss.
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