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Compiled by Latheef Farook |
Quranic means to cope with today’s stressful life:
Pressing problem of peace within ourselves
There are times when people can’t forgive themselves for mistakes of
the past. It could be due to hurtful things they have said or done. They
spend all their time regretting the mistakes they have made. Some people
can’t forgive the mistakes of others. “Show forgiveness, enjoying what
is good, and turn away from the misguided” - Holy Quran Surat Al-Araf
7:199.
1. They have somehow been wronged either by their parents, spouse,
relative, friend or complete strangers and they can’t go beyond this
incident. They end up clinging on to grudges and they vow to never
forgive the perpetrator. Living in the past prevents you from enjoying
the blessings of the present. By dwelling on the past and not being able
to overlook the mistakes of themselves or others, they will rob
themselves of the serenity they deserve.
2. Anxious about the future: There are people who spend every waking
moment worrying about the future. “When will I get married? Will I have
kids? Will I pass my exam? Am I going to get a job? How will my kids
turn out? How will I pay for their tuition? Am I going to get sick or
get a disease? What will happen when I retire? The worries go on and on
with no end in sight. This constant preoccupation with the future makes
them miss out on all the wonderful events of the present.
Verily, we have created man in toil (a state of struggle and stress)
- Surat Al-Balad 90:4.
3. Comparing: Another way that people destroy their peace is by
comparing themselves to others. They look at the polished exterior of
others and feel inadequate about themselves, their spouse and their
children since they are aware of all their own flaws and shortcomings.
Each person is a package deal so accept the whole package. You may be
admiring a person’s good looks not knowing how their heart is diseased.
The wealth and possessions of others may impress you when you are
unaware of the tests they may be encountering. And He has raised you in
ranks, some above others that He may test you in that which He has
bestowed on you. Surat Al-An’am 6:165 - Look not with your eyes
ambitiously at what we have bestowed on certain classes, nor grieve over
them. Surat Al-Hijr 15:88 - Each time we compare, we are left feeling
unhappy and anxious, depriving ourselves from being aware of all the
wonderful things in our lives.
The only time it is recommended to compare is when it has a positive
impact on our lives. We can compare ourselves to people more
knowledgeable or more charitable in order to get us inspired to be a
better person. Narrated by Abu Hurairah the Prophet (peace and salat
upon him) said, “Do not wish to be like anyone except two men: A man
whom Allah has taught the Quran and he recites it during the day and
night and a man whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it on charity.
Another permissible comparison is looking at people who are much worse
off than us in wealth and health. By doing this we instantly feel
grateful and pacified.
4. Rejecting your destiny: The worst way of slaying your peace is by
rejecting your destiny. This is when a person is absolutely angry, upset
and frustrated from the events of their life. It may be that they have
not got married or were divorced, they are unable to get a job, they
have medical issues or they are unhappy with their spouse. Whatever the
circumstance- they are mad. They feel it’s unfair. They question why
others have it easy and their life is such a mess. It’s vital to realize
that Allah is the Most Wise and if a person questions their life they
are implying that they know better than Allah. When people reject their
destiny,
they sentence themselves to a life of misery. You may hate
something when it is good for you, and you may love something when it is
bad for you. Allah knows, and you do not know - (Surat al-Baqara,
2:216).
Ways to attain peace
1. Relationship with God: When people have a strong, healthy
relationship with their creator, they attain an infinite amount of
peace. It is Allah who sent peace and tranquility into the hearts of the
believers, that they may grow more in their faith - (Surat al-Fath
48:4). Their perspective is broadened. They don’t only look at the
circumstances and difficulties of their lives and despair. Certainty in
the promises of Allah fills their heart which makes them persevere with
an unequivocal amount of patience when faced with the most unimaginable
tests. When people know the names and attributes of Allah - I mean
really know them and understand them not just list the names - then they
will not fall prey to the slayers of peace because they will not dwell
over the past, won’t be anxious about the future, won’t compare and they
definitely would not reject their destiny. Without a well established
relationship with Allah which involves obedience and commitment, no one
can have true peace. Behold! Verily on the ‘Awiliyas’ (friends) of Allah
there is no fear, nor shall they grieve; those who believe and
constantly guard against evil.” (10:62-63)
2. Acceptance: Acceptance is one of the most critical aspects of
attaining peace. There needs to be genuine acceptance of everything in
your life and that includes your past, your present, your looks, your
circumstances and your destiny. If you are unable to accept an event in
your life and if you dwell on why things happened the way they did, then
you will be filled with grief and anxiety. Don’t grieve at the things
that you fail to get, nor rejoice over that which has been given to you
- Surat Al-Hadid 27:23. As soon as there is acceptance, the peace
immediately follows. The focus of therapy in many instances is to help
the client accept themselves and their lives. It is amazing how a person
transforms when they stop metaphorically having a tantrum by kicking and
screaming and finally accepting their portion in life.
3. Internal Validation: Majority of people have a very low
self-esteem and the only way they can feel good about themselves is to
try to gain the approval and acceptance of others. This can be a very
slippery slope depending on the people they are trying to impress. Many
teenagers are so desperate to gain recognition and approval of their
peers that they will do absolutely anything. This of course is the
extreme example where individuals put their ethics and beliefs aside
simply to gain acceptance. However, there is a more subtle,
psychological issue which involves being unhappy unless a person
receives compliments or validations. They simply can’t feel adequate
unless they get another person’s approval. This will make a person
extremely needy of others and they will never feel content or even
peaceful unless another person gives them validation. That is why it is
of paramount importance to give internal validation; feeling good about
actions because they are pleasing to Allah. There is no need to be
dependent on others to feel good or worthy. And they give food for the
love of Him to the poor, orphan, and the captive saying, “We feed you
seeking Allah’s Countenance only. We wish for no reward, nor thanks from
you”, - Surat-Al-Insan 76:8,9).
4. Self-Talk: The dialogue people have with themselves has been
estimated to be about 600 words a minute! What’s all the chatter about?
Studies show that 85 percent of the self-talk is negative. Once the
self-talk is seen as a way to programme the mind, it can be used to
achieve peace. When a person says comforting things to themselves rather
than beating themselves up they will be in a much better state to reach
their goals. It is important to remember to be kind and understanding
when mistakes occur and to always be aware of the internal dialogue.
When the self-talk is positive then a person can overcome any obstacle -
if it is negative they will propel in a downward spiral of depression.
Whatever is said in this internal dialogue will determine the mood, the
level of peace and the ability to achieve any goal so watch the
self-talk.
5. Self-worth: A person’s self-worth is not based on some number -
it’s not how much is in the bank account, IQ, size, GPA or salary. When
people start equating their worth based on these things they can feel
extremely discouraged. Self-worth is the ability for people to see
themselves as competent, successful individuals that are able to deal
effectively with the demands of their lives. One of the biggest
stumbling blocks to success is a lack of self-worth. The best way to
feel worthwhile is doing everything in your life to please the creator.
Verily, my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my death are for Allah,
the Lord of mankind - Surat Al-An’am 6: 162.
In this way the action is done purely for Allah without longing for
any recognition or approval from anyone else. It is essential to
establish an exemplary character which truly makes any individual an
invaluable asset to have in any setting. To foster a feeling of
self-worth is to set small, achievable goals that will bring about a
feeling of confidence. Contributing time, money and talent in helping
others will also develop a strong sense of self-worth. Whosoever
intercedes for a good cause will have the reward thereof - Surat An-Nisa
4:85.
6. Forgiveness: The key to having peace within ourselves and with
others is to be forgiving. Grudges and animosity gradually diminish our
state of tranquility just as a pristine piece of metal steadily rusts in
harsh weather. If we view each event in our life as a test and we focus
on passing the test then it is much easier to forgive.
When we forgive to only please Allah and to pass our tests peace
descends upon our hearts. It is so incredibly liberating when we can let
go of the hurt, throw out the emotional baggage and move on. It will
free our heart, our mind and our soul if we forgive and forget. The
recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof; but whoever forgives and
makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah - Surat Ash-Shura 42:40.
When you are faced with difficulties and disappointments make sure
you avoid the peace slayers. As you stay away from the things that rob
you of peace, work hard on attaining it back through the above mentioned
suggestions.
Muslimmatters.org
Filipino actress Queenie Padilla quits showbiz, embraces Islam
Filipino singer/actress Queenie
Padilla shares her rebirth after performing Haj in Makkah. By all
accounts, “the future leading lady” was on her way to stardom before she
had a spiritual rebirth
Queenie Padilla was starring in primetime TV shows and would sing and
dance in production numbers on popular variety shows in the Philippines.
She was the other half of a romantic pairing (‘love team’ in local
showbiz parlance) meant to set hearts aflutter. At 20, she was living
her dream - or so she thought.
“It was a deceiving dream,” Queenie told Arab News as she sat wearing
an abaya and a veil on her head. Devoid of makeup, her face is just as
angelic and even more beautiful than when she was all dolled up for
guest appearances and shows.
Queenie Padilla |
After performing Haj for the first time, she declared to all and
sundry that show business was now behind her. The YouTube video in which
she tearfully shares her life-changing Haj experience was going somewhat
viral; it was garnering likes and getting shared and re-shared among
Muslims, and not just in the Kingdom. Inspiring was the consensus.
What triggered a 180-degree turn for the young lady who was dead-set
on pursuing a showbiz career a mere four years ago? How did the decision
come about? And, how did she break it to her fans?
Queenie said she had been so worried what the producers, directors,
managers and especially, her fans would think.
Everyone had expectations of her and she was feeling the pressure.
She had to ask herself: “Am I going to live my life disobeying Allah or
am I going to make the final decision in living my life as a good Muslim
and really practice Islam the right way? There was a struggle but I had
to make a choice. So I made that choice. I quit.”
Queenie calls herself a revert to Islam because she embraced her
faith wholeheartedly after visiting her mother in Australia, where she
grew up nominally Muslim with her two sisters and their youngest
brother.
Her father Robin, who comes from a big showbiz clan, famously married
Queenie's mother in Muslim rites inside prison as he was serving a
21-year sentence for illegal possession of firearms in the early 90s. He
was pardoned by the then president, and he left jail in 1998 no less
famous than when he entered it. He remains one of the Philippines’ most
bankable action movie and TV stars to date. The busy life of a celebrity
didn't leave much time for Robin to educate his family about Islam as
much as he would want, but Queenie credits him nonetheless, because if
it weren't for him they would not be Muslim.
“When I went to the Philippines, my father told me to wear a hijab
and pray. But I didn't know why I was praying. I was ignorant about
Islam and about being Muslim. At that time I hadn't yet tasted the
sweetness of faith. I think that's why I was misguided.”
Their mother started practicing Islam herself just two months before
Queenie did, and she let her eldest daughter know her desire for her
children to become good, practicing Muslims. Queenie says that when she
first saw her mother after the latter rediscovered Islam, she was
pleasantly ‘shocked.’
“I saw this glow in her that I've never seen growing up as a child.
Everything that came out from her mouth was all about Islam and Allah.
And she was reading the Quran constantly and listening to lectures and
she wore the hijab. I asked her if she was afraid of wearing the hijab
in this society. She said she wasn't because she has piety, and that's
all that matters.”
Over dinner, they would have conversations about the Hereafter and
whether or not they obeyed Allah with their deeds and actions. “It got
me thinking,” she said. “I started evaluating and asking myself if I was
really happy with my job, and I realized that there was something
missing in my life.
There was emptiness inside. I wanted to feel what my mother was
feeling because she was so happy and content - and peaceful. I told her,
‘Oh please, I want to learn more about Islam.”
And she did. As she learned more about Islam, she knew she had found
what would fill the void she was feeling: renewed religious fervor. “It
was an amazing feeling. I think it was a calling from Allah. The more I
learned about Islam, the more it became my passion. And every day, when
I gained more and more knowledge, the missing parts of myself began to
grow. The emptiness is gradually going away too,” she added.
Queenie went to Saudi Arabia solely as a pilgrim and not an actress,
although she met the Filipino community just the same. She visited the
International Philippine School in Jeddah and other Saudi private
schools where the students’ reception was uniformly warm.
Her most unforgettable experience in her brief two weeks visit to
took place in a hospital where she visited a 30 year old Filipino woman
with a rare form of cancer. Queenie prayed for the patient who dreamed
of going to the Kaaba. Shortly after, the woman reverted to Islam and
declared her formula of faith in Islam, making Queenie “the happiest
person alive.
“The patient awakened me in a way; she reminded me that sickness or
death could hit us anytime. Every day as Muslims, we should prepare,”
Queenie said.
Queenie’s parents, now married to different people, are very happy
over her decision to fully practice her religion.
Her next mission is to share more about Islam with her sister Kylie,
who is an up-and-coming star in her own right back home. Queenie also
plans to major in business, and at the same time, take up Islamic
studies.
These days, Queenie speaks with a conviction not previously seen in
some of her TV interviews, in which she appeared reserved and even a
little nervous. She has transformed into a lady who conveys the message
of Islam to people with courage and confidence, even if she admits her
knowledge is still limited.
Courtesy Arab news,
Jeddah
The Mind’s Eye:
Musings and reflections of Dr. M A M Shukri
This valuable collection of essays by Dr. M A M Shukri on various
aspects of Islam were published in learned journals throughout a good
part of his distinguished academic career.
Dr. Shukri majored in Islamic Philosophy for which he received his
PhD from the University of Edinburgh and the writings gathered in this
volume reflect his thinking on a range of issues from the deeply
profound to the seemingly mundane.
What is particularly intriguing about Dr. Shukri’s writings is his
firm grasp of the subjects he has dealt with, imparting to these
observations not only a wider dimension but also an inner meaning meant
to appeal to the deeper recesses of the human soul leaving one
contemplating on the real purpose of this worldly life and indeed on the
many dimensions of the human experience.
Consider for instance the insight he gives us in his contribution on
an apparently simple topic such as Islamic Perspectives in Archeology:
An intellectual apprehension of the great civilizations brought to
light by the archaeologist's spade and a meditative contemplation of the
mute silence to which every one of them have been reduced by ‘Time’ is
germane to the Islamic vision of things and we should say, is in harmony
with all religious truths.
The archaeological portrayal of the rise and fall of all
civilizations drive home the philosophic truth, that man and the
universe in which he finds himself is destined to perish.
No power, no wealth, no heroism and deeds of valour, no noon-day
genius can save him from the inexorable juggernaut of death.
“Kullu Nafsin Dhaykatul Maut” - Every soul shall taste death.
Shelley's poem on Ozymandias delineates this Quranic truth movingly.ÓI
am Ozymendias, king of kings: Look on my works, ye mighty, and despair;
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay of that colossal wreck,
boundless bare, The lone and level sands stretch far away”.
Archeology enters the Islamic perspective, as it calls upon man to
travel and see for himself the fate of those who preceded us: “Do they
not travel through the earth and see what was the end of those before
them? They were more numerous than those, and mightier in power and in
the trace they left in the earth.” Al-Qur'an.
In effect, he sums up the Islamic view of history in a way that is
both touching and moving. Man is often so lost in the ways of the world
that he hardly stops to reflect on the perishable nature of his
existence. How short life indeed is, if we ever stop to think of it. A
lifespan of even a hundred years is really not much if we really think
about it. A year is only 360 days after all.
And man in his folly craves for transient power, wealth and other
worldly pleasures as if he is going to enjoy them eternally. He risks
his life and health and those of others lusting after these ephemeral
pleasures, only to find that it was really not worth after all. This is
where religion can guide man and show him the path he needs to pursue
for peace of mind and for the betterment of human society as a whole.
Dr. Shukri also gives us some valuable insights into the relationship
between man and nature in his well presented essay on the Ethical System
of Islam where he observes:
The Western concept of nature, which is outrightly materialistic,
runs contrary to this Islamic approach to nature, which is
value-oriented. Islam aims to live in harmony with nature whereas the
West adopted an attitude of confrontation ever since the European
Renaissance and more so since the Industrial Revolution.
The West had adopted an attitude of confrontation towards nature as
an enemy to be exploited, conquered and destroyed. Thus, man's
alienation from natural environment led to the raping and plundering of
nature, which has led to the present ecological crisis.
Published by: Naleemiah Institute of Islamic Research. Printed by:
Printel (Pvt) Ltd
Reviewed by Asiff Hussein |