Two of a kind
A few columns back we talked about similarities. We mentioned kindred
spirits and beings with parallel ideas. Birds of a feather flock
together. We find it easier to move along with people of equal tastes.
Then there is the concept of opposites attract. This has been a
theory for constant debate in my mind. I have heard many a tale of
people uniting via similar personalities. I have read that many more
diverse individuals of two spheres embark on journeys towards the 'and
they lived happily ever after' stage.
He is a neat freak, you are a slob. He is a bookworm, you are a
sports nut. He loves his 'me' time, you enjoy hanging out with friends.
At first the differences between you makes things exciting but once you
spend more time together how can you ensure that things would not fall
apart?
Most people believe that getting into a relationship is the most
difficult part but to tell you the truth, once you have started seeing
each other you would realize that the real challenge lies ahead - how to
carry on with your relationship. The charming little 'differences' that
you might have found 'cute' at a time might seem like 'thorny
annoyances' in later life.
People’s personalities have varied facets |
Personally I do not believe in this 'person getting together with a
one entirely different to his or her own personality' syndrome. There is
bound to be clashes somewhere. However I do believe in persons from two
different backdrops coming together form an intimate bond.
I have experienced it many a time. Some have been from different
social statuses. Others from diverse religions. It is not like we agree
on matters 100 percent. We do have moments in which we have engaged in
hot debates.
Yet the friendship lasts. There have been moments when you wish the
other person understood you better. This not only happens with outsiders
or friends but even with family members that you have lived with all
your life.
People react differently to different matters. That is what makes us
different from each other. My friend stood by me when I refused to take
on a task but did not take quick measures when I gave constant reminders
that we need to prepare for an upcoming event in prior. Since I know
that he is a last minute person, it was not entirely unexpected. Still
being someone who prepares and worries if things might not run smoothly,
I was agitated.
Overall, we make an interesting combination. We understand things
that really matter to each other in life and even if we did not, we
respect the other's decision and made an attempt to see the situation
through the other's eyes.
Be realistic. Do not expect your partner to change much just because
you have different tastes in some matters. Compromise. Be happy and love
him or her for his or her positive points. They exist. After all those
are what captivated you in the first place.
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