Compiled by Suharshi Perera
Child Abuse: Your child can be the next victim
Lakmini Rodrigo and Jananee Weeraratne
Dr. Hiranthi Wijeymanna was the former chairperson of the National
Child Protection Authority. At present she is the Executive Director of
the South Asia Women's Fund. The Daily News met Dr. Wijeymanna to
capture some of her views on child abuse in Sri Lanka and the mothers'
role in preventing it. We believe that Dr. Wijeymanna's views and
experiences would help our women be better mothers and protect their
children.
Q. What are the forms of child abuse? Which form is the
commonest in Sri Lanka?
Dr. Hiranthi Wijeymanna MPH (Harvard) MBBS (Colombo)
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A. There are three forms of child abuse. Physical, Mental and
Sexual abuse. But it is very difficult to categorize them as they are
interrelated. For example, a child who is sexually abused may suffer
mentally too.
Generally all three forms of abuse take place in Sri Lanka. But
sexual abuse has the most long lasting consequences and worst effects on
the child.
Q. Which children are more prone to be abused?
A. Mostly those who have a poor relationship with their
families or whose mothers have gone abroad without providing a proper
care taker for the child for the period that she is away.
And also more cases are reported from the families of lower economic
background than from the economically well-off families probably due to
their lack of education and poverty.
A study conducted by the UNICEF showed that 10 per cent girls in Sri
Lanka are subject to abuse while the percentage of boys is 14. This
could be partially attributed to the girls' reluctance to bring the
issue to the light.
Q. Who is most likely to abuse a child?
A. The sad situation is that most of the abusers or
perpetrators are people that are closest to the child and those whom the
child trusts. They could be family friends or the child's immediate
relatives like father, grandfather or uncle.
Most of these cases are not brought out either. So we don't even know
the extent of the problem because what we see is only a small percentage
of cases that are reported.
Q. Where is abuse most likely to take place?
A. In most cases abuse takes place in places that the child is
very familiar with. Their house, schools, relatives' houses or school
vans. Pathetically it occurs in child care institutions and religious
institutions as well, which is very hard to identify and take action
against.
Q. Why is there a lack in reporting of these cases to relevant
authorities?
A. The main reason is that there is a lot of stigmatisation.
And also if abuse takes place at a very young age the children don't
even realise that they are being abused. It's only when they grow up
that they realise that they had been abused and by then they are
reluctant to talk about it. And they also tend to believe that the fault
is theirs- entirely or partially.
And also in some cases children are subject to horrible humiliation
during trials, which makes the other abused children reluctant to come
out with their problems.
To overcome this problem we need child-friendly law enforcement
officers and judicial officers to whom the child could approach without
fear. And the punishments given to the perpetrators should be strict.
Because someone who robs the child of his childhood could not be
forgiven at any cost.
Q. In today's society a working mother has become a norm. With
the number of emigrant mothers as well as working mothers. What impact
does it create on this issue?
A. Most married women face a string of difficulties once they
enter the family life. One is the economic pressure, which pushes the
woman towards working, as the husband alone cannot support the family.
And also with girls being educated they do not want to be financially
dependent. Therefore they tend to start working.
And I feel very sorry for the women who migrat to the Middle East,
because they are left with no choice. And most children are abused in
families which the mothers have migrated to the Middle East.
So the children who are deprived of the care and protection of their
mothers are very likely to be abused.
This is a very dangerous situation as these abused children may turn
out to be criminals, murderers or anti-socialists.
Q. What is the solution for this situation?
A. If a mother is going abroad she should arrange a proper
system to take care for her children while she's away. And they should
maintain regular contact with the child.
And also she should provide someone reliable to the child that he or
she can go and talk to if some problem occurs. Also employment for women
within the country should be increased so they don't have to leave the
country.
And the society should realise their obligation in assisting a mother
take care of her child.
Q. What is the role of a mother in protecting her child from
being abused?
A. In today's context where the woman has to be a mother, wife
as well as a breadwinner and should balance her priorities. After all,
giving birth to a child- a new life- is a miracle and could not be
secondary.
And the father too should equally contribute in taking care of the
child.
Today, young fathers have taken great interest in child caring which
is a very good attitude. Parents should spend some quality time with
their children and build a strong relationship with them so the child
could openly talk to the parents about anything. It is not the amount of
time they spend but the quality of time that matters.
The relationship between the mother and child should be very strong
and healthy. Being a good woman is not all about being a good cook and
baking the best cake, but about being intelligent and being alert to
your child's behaviour.
Women may have to make sacrifices for their children, but it is worth
as they create a large positive impact on your child.
Q. Is there a specific age group when the child is most likely
to get abused, and that the child should be specially protected by their
family?
A. Unfortunately no. There is no specific age group. Even
little babies are abused today. And especially little children who have
no idea about sexuality could easily be coaxed to perform various acts
and kept quiet.
The adolescent, on the other hand are very vulnerable, and need to be
taken care of. So since birth until 18 years, when one is not considered
a child any more, he or she should be protected and cared for by
parents.
Q. To what extent the open economy and tourism has contributed
in the increase of child abuse?
A. Tourism contributes to around 3 per cent of child abuses in
the country. There are several commercial Child Abusing Centers in Sri
Lanka that cater to the needs of tourists arriving in the country for
that purpose.
Mainly these centers are located in the coastal area especially in
Negombo, Hikkaduwa and Hambantota, but we witness a decrease in the
number of these centers following programmes initiated by the Tourist
Board and Embassies along with other local authorities and NGOs acting
upon this. We should appreciate their assistance in tracking down
perpetrators.
Shantha brings Rasa Bojun - 2
Anjana Gamage
CULINARY: Food is a basic need of all humans and being able to
prepare a delicious as well as a nutritious meal for your family is
important. And it's not everybody who has the talent to cook tasty
meals. A woman who has gained much recognition in culinary art is not
only loved and admired by the housewives but all those who relish tasty
cuisine is Shantha Mayadunne.
What is the secret behind your success?
"Perhaps the fact that I don't keep any secrets when I present a
cookery demonstration, she said with a smile. I have helped many by
introducing easy good cooking methods. I do not consider cookery
demonstrations as just another presentation of my culinary talent. It is
a kind of family attachment, entertainment and a way to build a good
neighbourhood," said the famous cookery demonstrator.
Mrs. Mayadunne was busy for the past couple of weeks preparing her
second cookery book which was launched yesterday. "Presenting a cookery
book with my own recipes which I have tried as 'experiments' was in my
mind for a long time", she said.
She presented her first cookery book titled "Shanthagen Obata Rasa
Bojun 1", few years ago and the second volume of it "Shanthagen Obata
Rasa Bojun 2", contains 85 recipes briefed in the book suited for
various occasions and to the local palate and purse.
Mrs. Mayadunne obtained her education at Vishaka Vidyalaya,
Bambalapitiya in the Science stream.
"Science helped me a lot in my cooking because I came to know the
nutritional value of food. I believe that in order to become an expert
in any field, one needs to gather knowledge as much as possible by
obtaining training in that field. I am still learning from others", she
added.
During the past few years, she has travelled to countries such as
India, Australia, England, Thailand, and Singapore. She has also
obtained a Diploma certificate for cake icing from the famous Wilton
Icing School in U.S.A.
Mrs. Mayadunne is the first person who introduced and presented a
cookery workshop in the country in 1994 at the National Youth Centre,
Maharagama.
"Women should think positively and believe that they can achieve much
in life, not only through the culinary field, but also in many other
ways especially in the manner they conduct themselves in society. It is
a pity that most underestimate themselves.
"I always try to do something which is unique. Everyone likes to eat
a delicious and nutritious meal, but today food is very expensive and
not many can afford to such meals. The poor people, especially children
are greatly affected by a lack of nutritions and wholesome meals. I
always try to find cookery methods that are nutritious, tasty, easy to
prepare and also not very costly, she explained. |