Stability in a changing world: some tsunami anniversary thoughts
BY FAITH Ratnayake
ONE of life's basic needs is for stability; and like charity, it
should begin at home. If our homes are places where characters are
formed with humanity, compassion, tolerance and discipline, then we have
perfect stability within our families.
Tsunami-hit children readying for school |
But if personal characters have been damaged, stemming from parents
who themselves come from distorted, dysfunctional homes and who exert
this influence on their children, then we lack the basic tools to cope
with family problems.
In an age where we face delinquent culture everywhere, we need help
in returning to basics to realise our normal rightful duty to family and
society.
Society as we know it today, is highly competitive and money-driven,
deformed by corrupt politics and value-systems that deride honourable
ethical and religious teachings. Audio-visual agencies spread
suggestions and ideas to influence vulnerable people.
Fears of breaking moral laws are mocked and broken down. We have seen
the numbers of youngsters, men, and women with their babies and young
children, in remand jail, in prisons and reformatories. The cost in
human and monetary terms is tremendous and horrifying for this small
nation.
This predatory culture subverts our efforts to give our young people
consistent, morally wholesome values, and the young tend to treat such
efforts with cynical amusement. The end result is poverty of our
personal life and nature.
Personal discipline and stability must be instilled within the family
and early school. This will help us achieve better homes and wiser
families.
As children move from home to school, they need to be taught
fundamentals of right and happy relationships in family and marriage,
long before they reach marriageable age.
Human sympathy and empathy are important criteria in recognising and
dealing with emotional problems, before a child becomes a 'problem'.
Each child has the right to receive individual care and guidance from
birth to maturity, and the starting point is home stability.
Many people live in difficult or enclosed conditions, without normal
contact with the outside world.
There are young mothers with little or no family support, elderly and
infirm people confined to their homes, those in care homes and
orphanages, those confined to prison or correctional institutions - or
those simply too afraid of today's violent world to venture outside
their own homes. And then there are the homeless.
These situations destabilise people, if they do not have awareness. A
basic human right is education. Proper education and maturity give us
the essential ability and steadiness to work out a commitment to living
within these situations.
We need to commit ourselves to a loving relationship with the people
in community with us, however difficult they are, or however difficult
we find it to relate with them. If we change our attitudes, we can
influence others for the better.
Buddhist and certain Christian Orders have monks and nuns who choose
a commitment to lifelong enclosure. They need stability for spiritual,
emotional and physical welfare. Those in secular life can follow this
spiritual attitude.
Those who believe in a Creator God, and believe that He has a plan
for us, can find the path to help us to allow God's stability into our
hearts.
Stability allows God to work creatively in our situation with
surprising results. We need to abandon the constant nagging inner
struggle that causes us to feel that life owes us more than it gives us.
We get from life what we put into it.
Correct attitudes are essential for all creatures to live in harmony
with each other and with their environment. The change comes not from
within us, from our own reservoir of strength, but from the unfailing
support of God, and His Holy Spirit working within us.
Whatever our beliefs and lifestyles, if we have the spiritual
strength and faith to accept our situation, discipline sets us in the
place where we can become the person we are intended to be. We must
consider our home as 'holy ground', and treat it as such.
It is the place where all personal and intra-communal relationships
are formed and fostered, and fulfillment of our true potential can be
realised.
In post-tsunami Sri Lanka, we must not allow erratic and irrational
responses to drive the rehabilitation and rebuilding of families.
In accepting the challenge that this situation has brought about, we
must use this opportunity to rationalise the development processes of
the nation. Regional development is crucial, for basic human needs to be
met nationwide, and not only for the capital city.
Under-developed and neglected areas desperately need good schools and
teachers, hospitals, houses, job opportunities, build up of agriculture
and industry and the necessary infrastructure to develop and sustain
communities where they live.
We cannot keep on sustaining the human 'tsunami' tide that
desperately floods into Colombo in search of jobs and houses.
We experience daily the reckless and dangerous 'tsunami' of vehicles
that pours into and out of Colombo; the appalling undisciplined
behaviour of most drivers, the damaged environment, pollution, noise and
epidemic illnesses that makes existence dreadful and life destroying.
We are a sick society: sick and poor. A poverty that encompasses
those deprived of life's basic requirements as well as the spectre that
confronts us now - spiritual and humanitarian poverty.
Let all of us who are involved in the rehabilitation work make a
compact: to rebuild not only houses, schools, institutions, but also
homes and families; to enable all our peoples to realise their true
potential and become the people they were meant to be.
We have invaluable human resources, and our children must be nurtured
in stable, secure surroundings and raised with correct mind-set and way
of living, whether they are rich or poor in material terms.
If we make this fundamental change, a committed and positive people
will arise from the ruins, to make this a homeland fit for all to live
in. |